Happy New Year my dear readers!
As The 5 AM Mommy reaches around Two and a Half Lakh visitors, I would like to thank you for your constant love and support that has enriched our blog and our lives. We would not be able to achieve this figure without you. Thank you once again!
Past 6 months have been life changing and we welcomed 2020 with an open heart and a clear vision. We would like to keep delivering fresh content and something inspiring which would linger in your mind for a long time.
It is so nice to connect with you. I wanted to write a post reviewing past year, but I guess now in 2020, it is always the “Next Step Ahead” so let’s go about it.
Does it happen sometimes, that the people who know you come to you and say
“You were never like this?” And you FEEL the change?
The Dynamics of Life
The dynamic nature of our life changes so many things around us. It also includes our role models, our belief and many times people, who we think are our friends. Things change and that change is for our good. It is very difficult to absorb the situation and find an optimal work around for the change. Working on change – whether it is good or bad for us, is in our hands. The first and the foremost important aspect of managing change is consciously knowing the fact that it is coming. Then, may be one can avoid an element of shock or surprise which might be elating as well as heart breaking for many.
Tiny Changes Leading to Routines
While there are changes in life, it is important to not let it take away your routine. Routine is highly underrated. There are 1000 tiny changes that accumulate and bring a bout a bigger change or transformation. These tiny changes are the habits that you want to inculcate in any given year. One small step everyday towards that direction would create a big difference and may eventually help you realize your goal. Goals can only be realized when there is a consistent effort behind it. There might be several factors governing the goal which may not include the efforts, but we should accomplish that part which is duly ours.
Routines – Why are they needed?
Routine builds up confidence, it also gives you the strength to face the atrocities. Some surprising and shocking incidents in life can be very well tacked with routine. For some people it is a dreaded word, but for some people their routine is their coping mechanism.Setting up a routine which is comprehensive and is one of the most dreaded tasks. Not everything works the way you put it on paper so, keeping your routine flexible is also important. It must be accommodating, or you would suffer a great deal.
If you have your grandparents or senior citizens, the best way to learn specific timings for setting up your routines is to just see them carry forward their days. Once you get the hang of it, it is easy to keep it going.
“ You are what you do everyday” – The Power Of Routine
Further Reading : –
“Power of Habit – Charles Duhigg”
My childbirth story:
As I sit here and wait for her to come from the school gate, I remember my child birth story and how did I say “No-epidural”. I can’t believe this school going girl now was once a tiny 2.9 kg beautiful looking new born.I had terrible morning sickness all through my first trimester. I got my appointments with #Seethapathy Clinic ,Chennai and my Obstetrician was none other than Mrs Uma Ram. I went through all the check ups and everything was just fine.Thanks God!
Ante-Natal classes and my health regime:
Well, I took the 3 ante-natal classes which were conducted by #Rekha Sudarsan. Little Anusuya inside had taken classes more seriously than me. I have always been working out,from my twenties. And when I was pregnant, I was even more cautious. I ate what I craved for but of course in moderation. And I was determined to deliver a baby normally.Every mother wants a normal birth,right? Long walks, Long dog walks(with extreme pulls by my dog(pup then) formed a norm. Climbing stairs to home was a routine as we don’t have a lift/elevator to it.
I joined ante- natal classes and I was taught exercises which I incorporated as my routine. Kegels,lunges,squats,yoga(prenatal )and many more. I thought the moment I sit comfortably I wouldn’t be able to hit the goal .To my surprise not many encouraged me. Some people also told me that odds for normal delivery are more as I am a short person. But I didn’t give up. It was final trimester and I was already nesting it up.
The Alarms,Contractions and the fight with Epidural:
Series of false alarms followed a week before my due date. I got admitted to hospital one or two times eagerly waiting for some good news only to return without the baby to my dismay. Every time amma would give me ample vibhuti/sacred ashes to be applied on forehead before going to the hospital.
God couldn’t be present everywhere and so they sent mothers and mothers-in-law.
On one such Friday evening I got hell of contractions. I downloaded an app to quantify the same. Numerous trips to bathroom. A sudden irritability. Vomits and more. I thought this is also a false alarm. Without panicking my husband drove me to hospital along with my sister. Doctor checked and confirmed that I was in the process of delivering a baby. But they said the contractions were mild and they would expedite the process when I get strong contractions. I felt like hitting the face of the doctor who came to check me every single hour.Well, I was dying of pain. Of huge inexplicable pain. I resorted to all the tips shared by Rekha Sudarsan at her prenatal classes. Every time a contraction came I would breathe in and breathe out, diligently.
Visitors came and couldn’t help me but just empathize with my pain. My sister was with me all through. She held my hands and told me to breathe in,in case I forgot to succumbing to pain. It was 11.30 pm that night. We lay down with lights off and hands held together. Me and my sister. As the night set its mood, baby tricked me more. Suddenly my water broke the moment we slipped in some silence and were passing each contraction.
Lady doctor came in for examination. ‘She is dilated….but a long way to go!’ she exclaimed.
What!? I am dying here, don’t you have heart? Do something. Move things fast I told.
And thereon every contraction was a humongous mountain to pass. Amidst everything, my co-blogger Snehal took to every thing which would meant to make us both calmer. I knew if I panic now, the battle would be lost. I also resorted to japam…repeating a mantra for several times. And one Lord Rama shloka was getting reverberating my mind.
The next 3 hours from the time I got dilated.
- A lady doctor came with a proposal of getting epidural. I knew what it was and I was of the opinion, that I would bear the pain until I could. I rejected the proposal. Thanks to my ante-natal classes and labor classes.Everything was happening as I had pictured during the class.
- In the next hour another stronger proposal came knocking my pain. Making me little softer for the epidural injection. But I have worked for sales of a reputed bank. I knew the power of second try.I didn’t budge and refused politely.Next hour saw more dilation and more contractions.We were worried as what to do now!
- “Knock knock” said epidural. This time I vented out my entire pain and blasted at the lady doctor. In a stern voice I told her not to insist on it, else she may have to bear the severe complain.
Within next 15 min I was shifted to the main room and I was put on the table. It meant I won’t be with Snehal. Snehal thought as it was excruciating pain, I may opt for C-Section. But I was only strongly experiencing pain,mindfully. I breathed whoosh when I saw my husband Arun walk into the labor room. It was a rule of Seethapathy Clinic to let husband be with the mother delivering the baby.
It was the time to push the baby and to breathe out instead of shouting. I tried my level best. All the literature I had read prepared me to visualize what could happen and how to battle it out.My husband was standing behind me and helped me push the baby. Until we heard,’Beautiful baby girl for you, congratulations!’They showed me the baby and took her inside. my husband kissed me.
People take advantage of your problems. Pray God. Seek blessings. Prayers and meditation bring in the internal strength.Stand strong when you can. Ask for support. Read more. Understand more. I wouldn’t know what is delivering a baby until I attended ante-natal classes and the labor classes. Exercise. Bond with your partner or your mother, sister. Speak to your doctor frankly. I had also registered myself on online community of mothers, called www.babycentre.in. After all, I had no mom to tell me what can I expect at my delivery.Hope you have a smooth sail too. Every birth story is different and every mom is different. I believe you must have a great story too. Share with us the same and if you are a new-would be mom then share with us later.
Stories help healing. Happy parenting till next post!
No Sugar challenge
The5ammommies are always up for the challenge. This month I take #NosugarNovember challenge. No! I don’t have diabetes, neither type I nor type II. Then why strain yourself? Relax and enjoy that ice cream, those leftovers sweets from Diwali, Gear up for Xmas cakes and yes forgot about the Halloween treats! I differ to opine here. It is always said,” Make hay till the sun shines”! Though in Chennai, Mr. Sun shines all through the year, sometimes even more scorching, I prepare myself to take up a challenge before any doctor imposes it on me.This is something which I feel doable.
I am self confessed sweet lover. I “love” sweets. I love my cup of tea with sugar and also those filter cappis. Then why should I part my ways with something I love? The gains? Oh Wait! Weight loss? Well, this could be one of the reasons. But let us list some of the heftier other reasons for taking up this “insurmountable challenge”. Also, make a note that I couldn’t go beyond 4th-5th day in the month of September when I attempted the challenge.
- Taking sugar in the cup of tea/coffee the first thing in the morning is pouring “empty” calories, spiking your energy levels for the moment and then drain of the energy later. As a mom to a toddler I want constant energy levels throughout the day.
- White/ brown sugar increases the risk of heart diseases by increasing triglycerides and arteriosclerosis.
- Sugar causes obesity and exposes you to the risk of Type 2 diabetes.
- Sugar causes inflammation in body and also leads to insulin resistance.
- Consuming sugar has been associated with increased instances of the dreadful disease called Cancer.
Well, I am not here to list more than what looked really scary to me.
What my father says? Dad comes from a humble agricultural/farming family. He narrates his fond memories of childhood. He doesn’t forget to emphasize that it was only during the festivals or some grand celebrations that the SWEET was consumed. And sugar wasn’t available in such huge quantities, in every household like it is found today. Jaggery was more in fashion then. And manual work was harder.
Sugar was never the norm of Indians before probably the fifties and of course the obese population was less. With no availability to over availability of sugar we Indians have become addicted to the early morning teas and coffees with tablespoons of sugars. Remember that our ancestors worked harder and didn’t need sugar to”kick start” their mornings. Why kick start? The reasons of consuming have more to do with our inner selves than the outer environment.
At a point now in my life, I don’t feel the urge to pour that sugary coffee/tea to start my day. I wake up to the challenge mindfully. Ask myself, “Why do you need this”? Pass 5 minutes and grab a tea without sugar/banana/coffee without sugar and look at the other sweet things life has to offer. For me the necessary cup of sweet sanity became an addiction. I wanted it and wanted it badly. I generally hate to be dependent on anything and anyone to bring me comfort and happiness. I give my body a chance to fight its battles now even more fiercely without that cup. I may fail. But I am happy I am trying my level best. Also add to it my insane workout which makes me think twice before I fall for that silly cup of tea with sugar.
Try a challenge. More reasons in detail will follow in the posts to come. I have adapted a healthier lifestyle. I think addiction to sugar is more harmful than addiction to alcohol. I do and strongly believe. Are you ready for a change? Are you up to give up your temptations? Trust me, ”It builds self confidence like no other”! If I can , you too can. Try with small baby steps and one day you will find your newer self.
You may also read the post from Snehal Sham http://www.the5ammommy.com/failed-no-sugar-challenge/.
Why should I watch “This is Us”?
Rebecca and Jack, a couple is going to deliver triplets. Yes! I know I have included the father and why not! As he is the one who wants the kids more than anything in life. The story is all about their life, and their kids Kevin,Kate and Randall. Oh No! It is another boring show. We have seen many family serials. Well, hold on! The web series has a lot more to it than what could be expressed and could be said in words. The truth with which the sensitive characters speak their heart out in such a touching way just takes us on an emotional ride. We, as audience tend to reflect on various relationships the characters have with themselves and with others.The family is the focus of all its members. Name it all , the writer has well trapped all the strong values in one drama.
Every episode has a distinct parenthood story with a strong message which is interwoven with the beautiful characters played by such powerful actors. The story moves every point of time. It transits us smoothly to the previous years/ flashback and brings you back to the present without even a single jerk. A thick weave of relationships is what I look for daily in “This is Us”. With “no-time-4-everything” generation, this is a web series which grabs our attention and we are glued to something which isn’t “using the f*** word any often”. I would also call it a no-nonsense drama.
I like it when each of the character goes through multiple emotions at various times. The writer has excelled at bringing out the struggles which each of the characters undergo within themselves. You will cry with the characters, be embarrassed with them, be guilty when they do and also celebrate when “this is US” celebrates. We learn the art of building each other up and standing up for the family we live in with the Superbowl lovers. Amidst a number of web series which thrive mainly on sexuality, and the cuss words, here it is a family drama which has already moved mountains with emotions.
The music which takes the story back and forward with classics like “Catch a boat to England Baby”, and “Time after Time” is amazing.
What is in the family?
So as I was saying Kevin is the eldest of the triplets. Kevin is a handsome successful actor of a small series called “The Manny”. He encounters a struggle for his own integrity and has to put his foot down off the well-acclaimed show. His journey then starts to find out his purpose and he kind of gradually evolves as a Man.
Kevin is close to Kate. She is this big fat lady who has this huge never ending battle with Bulge that involves many physical and psychological issues. Her boy friend Toby another fat guy on the show , who loves her very much , tries to ease her angst and pain with his humor. He succeeds at many such moments and of course fails at other times.
Randall is the adopted son of the couple.He is the most successful, no vice, all perfect husband, son,dad and brother of the entire family. Born to black family and raised by whites, this guy has seen an entirely different life and struggles.
Go watch it now!
The show is about how the children remember their own parents while living their own lives. Even if they are practically gone.
We can relate with the show. There is life to every moment of the poignant writing.Everyone’s life has frequent but subtle twists . This is what makes it even more desirable to watch. Trivial confrontations and meaningful conversations are the strongholds of the drama. “This is Us” is etched in my memory and has made a mark in my heart. Kudos team “This Is Us”.