Such a direct and straight question isn’t it? In the changing times, things that bother us are many more than things that make us happy. If you just sit and relax, your mind quickly revolves around stuff which you did not like for that day or for that week.
In fact, there would be thousand other good things that must have happened to you in due course but our mind concentrates on the stuff which we did not like. When something is really bothering us we are seldom at peace.
The other day I met one of my friend in the market. She is a great girl having a good sense of humour and seeing her at the market was a pleasant coincidence. We both were very glad but she quickly talked to me about something which was bothering her all these days. I lend her a patient ear but I really felt her need to be talking to someone even if that someone is not so close.
Here there are two things at play, first is her restless mind which is focussing on stuff which was bothering her for a long time. And the second is that
whatever was bothering her was stopping her from looking beyond that particular aspect. I do not blame her but we are wired to think it that way.
Venting out is perfectly fine but when it bothers beyond venting there is always a solution
“Ask yourself, will this issue bother me 5 years down the line?” if the answer is “No” then it is not worth thinking about.
Now a day, I don’t remember what was bothering me a week ago 😉
One of the accounts manager at a renowned bank is an acquaintance, he has been in the business since last couple of decades. He has a happy family and overall great career just as one would want in the early forties. I met him some days ago and he started talking to me about how the bank leadership is changing and the challenges he is facing at his workplace, he was restless, wanted to go back to the earlier scenario which existed at his workplace but it was in vain.
There was an interesting survey conducted in an organization where they asked every employee “ Would you rather work for change or just complain?” More than 80% of them answered “Do I have to pick?, This is hard.” 🙂 🙂 🙂
Most often we do not want to step out of our comfort zone and resist change which might open a new door of opportunity. Discussing the status quo with someone and working a way out of it could be a great workaround.
Recently I saw a video on facebook where a man has a pen and paper. He has an ant on the paper. As the ant walks from one end to other, the man draws a line in front of the ant. The ant thinks that it is an obstruction and finds another path. Actually, it can very well cross the line but it does not. That is how our mind is.
We confine it as per our convenience and think it as an obstacle which is non-existant.
Letting something bother you is okay, for sometime, we all are humans but letting it take a toll on your thought process is not worth it.
Is something bothering you? Pour your questions in the comment.
Food that causes aggravation of doshas, which is the main reason for disease , is called viruddharam (incompatible food). The effect of this gets accumulated in the body and gives rise to diseases. It should be considered similar to poison and artificial poisoning (Gara Visha). Here are some of the examples, which so many of us take as regular food.
In our Sastras eating food is just like performing the yagna into the fire in the belly. Now the aahuti which we put in the yagna has a lot to do with the well being of the body. There are some rules which should be followed while cooking and eating food.
Do sizzlers, brownie Ice creams, Milk Shakes invite you? Well, here is what you should know about it.
Milkshakes and Smoothies:
All sour substances are incompatible with milk.So are all the fruits.
Now a day most of the people are taking milkshakes, thinking that it is very nutritious, but in contrary it is a causative factor for many ailments like skin diseases.
Packaged Cereals With Milk
Milk and salt are incompatible with each other and yet we add milk to the packaged cereals. In case you are wondering about the ingredients of Kellogg’s Corn Flakes. Here they are: Corn (88%), sugar, salt, barley malt extract, vitamins(vitamin C, vitamin E, niacin, riboflavin, thiamin, folate), minerals (iron, zinc oxide).
Green Leafy Vegetables and Milk
After consuming leafy vegetable drinking of milk should be avoided. Many fitness enthusiasts swear by the green smoothies. But
Green Smoothies is an example of blending incompatible food.
Horse gram with milk
Horse gram is the next superfood. Drinking horse gram porridge with milk is not advisable.
Mixture of hot & cold things
We all love sizzling brownies. Mixture of hot and cold things should be avoided as they are incompatible with each other by nature. Even adding cold water to hot water to make it drinkable should be avoided.
Heating of curd.
For many recipes, curd is the important ingredient. For example, to prepare morkuzhambu, people use curd instead of using buttermilk. It is always better to use buttermilk instead of curd for preparing curd based food.
Banana with curd or buttermilk.
Overnight oats are the greatest example of combining incompatible foods.
Soaking oats in curd or milk and topping it with banana and fruit of your choice is something people love to eat as a breakfast in the morning. It is easy to make and ready to eat but it should be avoided given the ill effects of incompatibility of these ingredients.
Wheat + Sesame oil, Wheat + Hot water.
Wheat with hot water and with sesame oil should not be used.
Fish with Dairy, Sprouts, Black Gram, Honey, and Jaggery.
Those people who have been non-vegetarians and have been eating fish all their life would always say that fish with dairy is not a favorable combination. So if you are eating your fish with curd rice, please eat it with rasam rice going forth. 🙂
Radish with soup of black gram.
Radish with black gram is a bad combination and should be avoided.
Ghee kept in a bronze vessel more than 10 days.
Ghee if kept in the bronze vessel gets poisonous, so it is better to avoid it.
A mixture of the equal quantity of ghee & honey.
We should not only avoid consuming processed & packed foods but also food with a bad combination because it is one of the main reason for all lifestyle diseases like BP, DIABETES OBESITY & also CANCER.
About me – I have been practicing Ayurveda for the past 18 yrs in a traditional way, I have experience in all Panchakarmas, I’m part of an NGO – AVAS, where I’m educating & treating underprivileged children.
Little Ms.K is fond of devices, gadgets and all kind of technology. Every gadget that we got home, was first used by her to the fullest. But slowly, she was getting into a habit of using gadgets like all of us do. As a mom, I was terribly worried about the screen time that she used to spend. I have always emphasized on child lead weaning for anything, and this time I was determined that she should get the control of switching off the gadget off by herself. As a 7-year-old, little Ms. K has now weaned herself from all the gadgets which is a relief.
We as parents should also try and use self-lead weaning from these devices. They are very helpful for people in every walk of life but when it becomes an addiction it is harmful for sure.
Recently Apple’s CEO Tim Cook has spoken about how Apple is working on introducing some features in iOS12 which may help all adults and teens keep an eye on how much mobile phones they are using in a day which I would say is a great tool.
What are the things which you will be able to do with iOS12’s manage screen time feature:
Activity report for total time spent in different apps, usage across all the categories of apps.
Screen Time Displayed Categorically
The enhanced Do Not Disturb Feature
The Do Not Disturb feature has always been there in iOS devices but now there would be dimming of display and no display of notification till the prompted time.
You can now get your notifications delivered quietly 🙂 group them
Get the notifications delivered quietly
Get suggestions from Siri on which notifications to be kept and which can be managed.
- You get to see how your screen time is divided across all apps.
- Choose your downtime with the apps, with the downtime the apps will have a badge stating that they are not allowed to be used during that time.
- Parents can set up time for children’s usage.
In the recent interview, Apple CEO, Tim Cook says that they have always kept their users as their priority while designing the ultimate technological experience. Hope the new feature helps us keep the phones at bay 🙂
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The first and foremost memory that I have of food is the “Dahi Poli” which I used to have in my grandma’s mud house. The dahiwali used to bring dahi in mud pots from her village in the morning and Aaji used to make hot phulkas during the same time. I used to eat 1 fulka happily at the age of 2-3 years. I never knew what was mindful eating then, but as I understand the Dahi ( Yogurt) was locally sourced and fulka was made by Aaji. Some years before when I was obsessed with counting the macronutrients in the food. I still could find that the meal of Dahi Poli around 11 AM was the best that I could have as a child and also as an adult. It was valid then and is valid now. Then what was missing in between?
After my graduation, I started working and the timings were really bad. I was always in the obese category but now with odd timings and odd eating pattern, I started putting on the considerable amount of weight coupled with a lot of acidity. Then started the part called unlearning.
Rice has simple carbs, chapathi has complex carbs. Groundnut oil is bad for health. Sunflower oil or Karadi oil is good for health. Never touch a Mango, Banana, Chickoo, it will put on weight. Have more green leafy vegetables etc were some more health secrets that I started living by. I worked out sincerely and did not eat well as per today’s standards. I reduced my weight several times in my life and bounced back to more, those many times. I never thought about mindfulness while eating post my graduation. I worked in different cities, ate whatever was available and I cook. Post marriage, I again started working out pretty regularly and reduced around 20 kgs by not eating well as per today’s standards. I never touched Mango, Milk, Chickoo, Banana and my favorite Guava during those days. Unlearning the mindfulness which Aaji ( grandma ) and Aai ( mom ) passed on to me was a major drawback. I ended up having IBS ( Irritable Bowel Syndrome) which is a group of symptoms like diarrhea, constipation, stomach pain and vomiting. 3 years of acute IBS brought me back to rethink the overall food habits and there is where I started relearning.
Mindful eating needed to be incorporated back to my lifestyle. But before that I needed to fix some things. Groundnut oil made entry to the kitchen with sesame oil from Kachchi Ghani. Switched to cow’s milk and homemade curd. Incorporated grain shuffle like one grain each day . It included eating jowar, bajra, wheat, rice ( normal white rice), nachni on a specific day in a week. Started having pickles, papads and homemade jams. All desserts which are homemade were welcome. It included Puran Poli, Coconut Burfi, Laddoo, Semiya Kheer, Shakkarai Pongal, Modak . Bringing ghee back on varan bhat helped bloating and weight loss. I can not specify in words how happy I am to include all this back in my food. You can see me a couple of pounds here and there but that does not matter to me as I have food which makes me happy. Since last 3 years I am having Banana everyday in the morning which has immensely helped curing IBS. No cramps, no constipation and bye bye to diarrhea. Bringing grandma’s wisdom back in life brought me back to life. As I have a spoonful of shakkarai Pongal laden with ghee and sugar, I say that there is nothing better than believing in your natural palette and trusting your instincts while eating. This is as they say – Mindful Eating. I have found myself through mindful eating, have you?
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This post is for moms, all moms who are stressed, tired, fatigued almost all the time. Some have found ways to deal with it and some are yet to reach that point. Some are struggling with their day to day hustle, while some are unable to cope up with the daily grind. Stay at home, working, working from home or any of them, moms have a lot to tackle throughout the day. Whether they get up as early as 4 am or they get up by 7 to 7.30, every mom sleeps as her babies fall asleep, it may give her minimal sleep at times but at the end of the day it is all worth it. Days go by and we all start to cope up with these unusual timings. By the time we are used to it, the kids grow and they have their own timetable. I feel as parents we never settle with one time. My day ends with half of the next day in its lap already. Some days before I used to struggle winding up and putting myself to sleep but no more. I was determined to make a change that is one part but the other part that helped me significantly is that I started my “Nightly Self Care Routine”. At first, people at home were astonished but slowly they understood that it is my process of winding up the day and to welcome the next one without being too stressed.
So here is the Nightly Self Care Routine for busy moms:
- Mentally and physically switching off from any gadgets 30 mins prior to bedtime
- We are so taken up by the social media updates that we often forget the time that we are checking out the phone. A lot has been said about the mobile radiation and its harmful effects but as I put my mobile on airplane mode, it gives me a lot of peace. This has helped me reduce a lot of stress. 30 mins before bed switching off all the gadgets is the first key to self-care.
- A hot water bath or soaking your feet in Epsom salt
- In a city like Chennai, where humidity is at its peak, a warm water bath is so soothing after a long day. If you don’t have time for that then soaking your feet in warm water having Epsom salt in it is the perfect solution for achy feet and calf muscles. This is an age-old remedy to reduce muscle spasms. You can also add some essential oil like lavender to the water to get the calming effect.
- Rub your feet with a little bit of ghee.
- Rubbing the feet with a bit of ghee is a time-tested method to relieve symptoms like fatigue and soreness of feet. Additionally, say bye to cracked heels with the goodness of ghee.
- Switching to low lighting
- Our bodies are tuned in such a way that as the sun sets, the body releases sleep hormones. As we are in the city and there are ample lights, the body gets tricked into feeling that it is still a day. Switching to low lighting before going to bed helps me a lot to slow down and wind up.
- Reading a book ( not kindle) gives a calming effect. I usually read my favorite poems or stories to my kid.
- Brain Dump
- This is something I swear by. Throughout the day we carry many feelings. Some happy, some sad, some frustrating, you can actually dump all that in a journal or a paper. If you do not want to see it again, you can as well tear it off. Clearing your mind helps to rejuvenate
- Slipping into comfortable clothing
- Each one of us slips into comfortable clothing at the end of the day. But as a part of self-care, next time, buy ultra comfy, soothing cloths and remind yourself that you deserve every bit of that comfort.
The purpose of this self care routine is to reduce stress. All moms out there, please try and let me know if it works. Well, it does work for me 🙂
The school reopening time is just around the corner. As the kids go to school life gets easier and complicated in every way. The question which moms face during school days is what to give them for snacks which are healthy and at the same time not boring. School snacks are made easy in this blog post.
Kids who participate in the whole process of planning, shopping ( if any) and preparing their lunchboxes to develop the ability to choose and enjoy healthy food.
Me and Little Ms.K usually plan our week together. This academic year, we decided to plan the menu for the lunch box as well. So, here are some of the easy school snacks to pack for kids where you can involve kids as well. Note: I have tried to avoid biscuits and cheese here because it doesn’t suit Little Ms.K, you can add your preferences.
- Chapati Rolls
- These are simple ones, you just have to make chapati and roll it with a filling of your choice. When we want it to be on the heavier side our filling has paneer in it otherwise there is Jam ( Homemade) or Ghee and Sugar.
- Coin Dosa
- Coin Dosa is my go-to option for a no-fuss snack. All you need to have is the dosa batter. These are coin shaped dosas which can have a topping of cheese.
- This is the crispier version of Roti or Methi Thepla. Very good to give as a snack. 100% home-made and healthy. You can give jam as an accompaniment
- This is a very famous dish of Tamil Nadu. You just have to pre-plan a bit. Soaking the chickpeas in advance till they sprout. Before you set up the lunch box take some oil in the wok, add mustard, curry leaves, and asoefotida. Add these soaked but drained sprouts. There are many varieties of Sundal. You can use Kabuli Chana, Green Moong ( Pasi Payir), Mot, Horse Gram or the likes. One can also add finely chopped cucumber, carrot as a topping.
- Paniyaram/ Appe
- These are made of Dosa batter. If you have the Paniyaram Chatti or Pan to make these small dosa batter dumplings then it is amazingly easy to make in a jiffy.
- Sattu Laddoo
- If you make sattu powder at home, well and good. But if you get it store bought, no worries. Just roast Sattu powder in ghee and mix it with Jaggery. Roll them into laddoos. You can also add dry fruits in these laddoos. Favorite of little Ms.K. I am sure every child will like it.
- Idli Fry
- This is our most favorite snack. As I make big idlis, I break them into pieces. Add oil to the wok, put mustard, as it splutters I add onion, curry leaves. Till they are done, I add little red chilly powder and turmeric. Mix it well and add the broken idlis. Mix it well and top it with coriander.
- Crispy Onion Rings
- Onion rings coated with wet chickpea flour and fried in groundnut oil is nothing but Crispy Onion Rings. I generally give yogurt or achar as accompaniment. I do not use store bought sauce.
If the lunchbox has chapati and sabji as lunch, then I give Poha or Puffed Rice ( Roasted in Ghee, Curry Leaves, and Jeera) as a snack. Makhna or Puffed Lotus seeds ( Roasted in Ghee, Curry Leaves, and Jeera) also taste good and they are nutritious yet light on the stomach. These are some simple snack items which we can make in a jiffy. Let me know if you have any other snacks which you make often…would love to try it.